The polite and honest paradox

I'm a firm believer in brutal honesty.  That often gets miscontrued as "I don't care how other people feel."  It's actually the exact opposite.  I care enough about my family and friends to be honest even when it's uncomfortable.

I'm also a firm believe in being polite.  And herein lies the paradox.

If I'm honest, you are the one that chooses whether or not I'm being polite.  And, if I use your definition of "polite", it may be very difficult to be honest.

Timing is everything.  Keep your relationships clear by having the tough conversations.  Just make sure you're not complaining to your spouse and kids about the carpet color while the house is burning down.

Timing, timing, timing!